I do not disagree with what is said here. I would argue that forgetting to show love/charity to others IS forgetting their love of Christ. “If you love me, you will obey my commandments.” “A new command I give you: love one another.” “The [two] greatest commandment[s]: Love the Lord your God with all your heart and all your soul and all your mind and all your strength. . . . Love your neighbor as yourself.”
Our youth group has a set of guidelines to follow. I have stressed they are not necessarily hard and fast rules, unless they need to be. We have grace that flows from a love people and wanting them present to learn from the Word. It would take something severe to be told not to return, and it would (usually) come after one-on-one conversations.
It strikes me that Jesus’ reprimand in Revelation is against the Ephesians making sure the doctrine was perfect, even if it pushed people away and/or they neglected caring for the needs of others.
Like when my family left the Catholic Church when I was two, because the priest was so adamant that my parents follow a local rule for the congregation that he publicly shamed my pregnant mother. (Seriously, it is a fun story! *ahem*)
So, again, I do not disagree. I have added thoughts to explain how everything else said on Wally’s post is true, but it could also be deeper, as so often happens with the Bible. I am happy someone pointed out this often overlooked fact of charity being integral to agape love!
Daniel